Assuming Positive Intent in Our Interactions
Let’s discuss something how we perceive each other and interpret the words and actions of those we come across daily. We often tend to jump to conclusions assuming the worst, which can negatively impact our relationships. What if we changed our perspective? What if we started by assuming intentions?
From Paul’s letter to the Corinthians, there is a profound reflection on love. You've probably heard it before at weddings or, during sermons.. Have you ever taken a moment to truly ponder its meaning?
Love is described as patient and kind, not envious or boastful not proud or self-seeking. It doesn't dishonor others isn't easily angered and doesn't keep track of wrongdoings. Love doesn't find joy in celebrating truth. It always protects, trusts, hopes, and perseveres (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).
It's noteworthy how love "always trusts" and "always hopes." This goes beyond sentiment; it suggests a way of life. Believing in the good of others even when its challenging is key. Take the story of Jesus and Zacchaeus for example. Despite Zacchaeus being a tax collector. A despised figure, in society Jesus didn't judge him harshly. Instead, He showed kindness and understanding.
"Zacchaeus come down. I want to spend time with you today." (Luke 19:5, NIV)
By extending trust and compassion to Zacchaeus Jesus sparked a change, in him. Zacchaeus turned his life around repented for his wrongdoings and followed Jesus. This illustrates the impact of assuming intentions.
To apply this principle in our lives;
1. Pause and Reflect; When faced with misunderstandings or hurt feelings, consider perspectives. Maybe that driver who cut you off was rushing to a situation.
Perhaps your friend who appeared distant may be dealing with some challenges.
1. Communication; It's important to have honest conversations. Express your feelings without blame ask questions and aim to understand before seeking to be understood. This kind of dialogue can help resolve misunderstandings and strengthen relationships.
2. Seeking Guidance; Turn to prayer, for guidance and wisdom. Proverbs 3:5-6 encourages us to trust in the Lord and not rely on our own understanding. By submitting ourselves to Him we allow Him to guide our paths in the direction. Trusting God also means embracing His perspective, on others, which is always filled with love and optimism.
3. Cultivating Empathy; Put yourself in the person’s shoes. Try to empathize with their struggles, pain, and experiences. Empathy can break barriers and foster compassion.
Paul advises us in Philippians 4:8 to focus on the positive; "Finally brothers and sisters whatever is true whatever is noble whatever is right whatever is pure whatever is lovely whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about things."
It's not, about being naive or turning an eye to reality. It’s about actively choosing to see the good in situations believing in the outcomes and acting with love.
